Nurture Nest
The start of a new school year is an exciting time, but for some children it can also bring worries as they adjust to new routines, expectations and relationships. It is perfectly normal for children to need a little extra reassurance during this transition, and we encourage families to remember that confidence and independence develop over time.
At Croxby, we are committed to supporting every child's emotional wellbeing. Mrs Neighbour (SENDCo and DSL), Mrs O'Connor (ELSA) and our dedicated welfare team are available to offer support and guidance whenever it is needed. Our Wellbeing Haven on the back playground is open during break times and lunchtimes, providing a calm and supportive space for children who may need a little extra help, while our Wellbeing Ambassadors are always on hand to offer a friendly face, a listening ear or someone to play alongside.
If your child is finding the start of term challenging, please do not worry. With encouragement, patience and the right support, children often show remarkable resilience and quickly grow in confidence. As always, we are here to work in partnership with families to ensure every child feels safe, happy and ready to thrive.
Supporting Your Child with the School Routine
Understanding After-School Restraint Collapse
As we move further into the school term, some children are still adjusting to the rhythm and demands of daily school life. If your child is feeling reluctant in the mornings, extra tired, or having emotional outbursts after school, please know — this is completely normal and more common than you might think.
What is After-School Restraint Collapse?
Many children, particularly in the early years of primary school, experience what’s known as “after-school restraint collapse.” During the school day, they are often trying very hard to follow rules, stay focused, manage social interactions, and meet expectations, all while possibly feeling tired or overstimulated. Once they get home (where they feel safest), all that bottled-up emotion and effort can come out in tears, frustration, or withdrawal.
How to Help Your Child Adjust to the School Routine
Building a smooth school routine takes time, and every child will adapt at their own pace. Here are some ways to help:
1. Establish Predictable Routines at Home
Children thrive on consistency. Having a regular bedtime, wake-up time, and morning routine helps them feel secure and ready for the day ahead. A simple chart or checklist can help younger children visualise what comes next.
2. Prepare the Night Before
Lay out clothes, pack bags, and prepare lunches in the evening. Reducing the morning rush helps create a calmer start and gives your child time to mentally prepare for school.
3. Create a Calm Morning Environment
Try to keep mornings as relaxed as possible. Allow extra time if needed, offer encouragement, and avoid power struggles. A calm parent helps create a calm child.
4. Use Gentle Encouragement, Not Pressure
If your child is hesitant about coming to school, acknowledge their feelings without reinforcing the fear. Say things like: “It’s okay to feel nervous. You’ve done hard things before, and you can do this too.”
5. Build in After-School Downtime
Avoid rushing into homework, questions, or structured activities right after school. Instead, offer a snack and time to rest, play, or just be quiet. This helps your child emotionally reset.
6. Celebrate the Small Wins
Praise effort and progress, not just outcomes. Even small things like putting on their uniform without help or walking into the classroom calmly deserve recognition.
When to Seek Support
If your child continues to be extremely distressed about attending school or is showing signs of ongoing anxiety, tiredness, or behaviour changes, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us. We can work together to support your child with personalised strategies.
School is a big part of a child’s world and adjusting to it takes time, energy, and lots of support. Your calm presence, understanding, and patience go a long way in helping them feel safe, confident, and ready to learn.